Well here we are, year number three under our belt! This year has been a pretty crazy year, as we experienced some major life changes. We explored Japan for a month, bought and moved into our first house, and had a baby! Might not have been the most rational to pack all of that into just one year, but it sure has been an awesome adventure.
As we all know, experiencing stressful situations puts stress on a relationship. I've long been worried about the affect that bringing a child into our life would have on our marriage and have tried to do lots of reading and preparing to fight back against the proven, "decline of marital satisfaction" that they say happens when you have kids. But looking back, I have to say that we experienced some of our biggest arguments when we were in Japan. Aside from moving in together, travelling together for an extended period of time was probably our first major "new and stressful situation" experience. Stress tends to make the ugly side of a person come out so it felt like we did that there, and in some ways, I feel that it has padded the landing for the subsequent stress situations of moving and having a kid.
Now we're only 7 weeks into this kid thing, so things could change, but it was nice to have some heads up of what my stress responses are before the 'crazy lack of sleep while raising a new human' thing started. I've been a huge advocate of travelling to learn about yourself and gain independence, but now I am also a huge advocate of travel as a great way to learn about your partner and put your stress responses to the test. Plus, you get to be mad at each other while walking through ancient Japanese forests and eating ramen...slight improvement?
As for the having-a-kid thing, one of the main things it has taught me is how much I need Colin. His presence beside me and support through the pregnancy, labour, and over the last 7 weeks, has been incredible. Even though I would say it, I finally felt the deep impact of the truth that I loved him more than anyone else on this earth. It was a beautiful and emotional realization, and I am so glad I get to walk through life with him.
For our anniversary, my wonderful family babysat Sloane for the night and we had a lovely night at the Rimrock Resort, where we got married! It was so nice to enjoy the mountains, be spontaneous, eat and drink late (late being past 7...) and starfish on the bed without fear of waking the baby! My heart feels rich.